Sacramental Marriage: What It Is and Why It Counts

When you hear the word "sacramental marriage," you probably think of a church wedding that does more than just bring two people together. In the Catholic Church a sacramental marriage is a true sacrament – a sign of God's love that gives the couple a special grace. It’s not just a legal contract; it’s a spiritual bond that the Church believes helps the couple grow together in faith.

Most people assume that any church wedding is automatically sacramental. That’s not always true. The Church looks at a few basic things before calling a marriage sacramental: both partners must be baptized, they must intend to stay together for life, and they must be free to marry (no previous valid marriage in the picture). If those boxes are checked, the wedding can become a sacrament.

Key Elements of a Sacramental Marriage

First, both spouses need a baptismal record. The Church sees baptism as the doorway to all other sacraments, so without it there’s no sacramental marriage. Second, the couple must freely choose each other – no pressure from family or anyone else. Third, the intention to make the marriage last a lifetime is essential. If a couple says they’re only getting married for convenience, the Church won’t call it a sacrament.

Another important piece is the proper form. This means the wedding has to be celebrated by an authorized priest or deacon, and the couple must follow the rite that the Church provides. Skipping the priest or using a non‑Catholic ceremony can mean the marriage isn’t sacramental, even if the couple is Catholic.

Finally, there’s the consent. The couple must openly say “I do” in front of the priest and witnesses. That verbal consent is the moment the sacrament actually takes place. If any of these steps are missing, the marriage is still valid in civil law, but it won’t have the sacramental grace the Church offers.

Steps to Prepare for a Sacramental Wedding

Start early by meeting with your parish priest. The priest will guide you through the pre‑marriage preparation classes, often called “Pre‑Cana.” These classes cover topics like communication, finances, and how to raise a family in faith. They also make sure you understand the responsibilities that come with a sacramental marriage.

Next, gather the paperwork. You’ll need baptismal certificates for both of you, proof that any previous marriages are annulled (if applicable), and a marriage license from your local government. Having these documents ready speeds up the process when you meet the priest.

Then, choose the date and the liturgy. Most parishes offer a few standard wedding Mass options. Pick one that fits your style and schedule. Talk to the priest about any special requests – like adding a favorite hymn or a family member reading a passage.

Don’t forget the witnesses. The Church requires at least two adults to sign the marriage register. Make sure they’re available on the big day and understand their role.

Finally, practice your vows. While many couples use the official vows, you can add a personal promise in the homily or during the signing. This personal touch keeps the ceremony authentic and meaningful.

When the day arrives, take a breath and remember why you’re there. A sacramental marriage isn’t just about the ceremony; it’s about a lifelong partnership built on faith, love, and commitment. Knowing the basics helps you enter the marriage with confidence, and it gives you a solid foundation for the years ahead.